How Dementia Caregivers Can Manage Frustration

By Anneliese Rosar, 9:00 am on

Many Allen dementia caregivers find the task to be extremely frustrating at times. Since scientists do not have a cure to stop this debilitating disease, many caregivers are left with negative thoughts that only fuel their frustrations. These thoughts can ruin the way that the caregiver views themselves, their loved one and the world around them. If you are a dementia caregiver, then use the TIC-TOC technique to banish negative thoughts from your life. 

Identifying the TIC

TIC stands for Task-Interfering Cognitions, or what we refer to as negative thoughts. These thoughts often interfere with the caregiver’s ability to feel positive about the world around them. One common TIC is over-generalization. If a caregiver is doing this, then he or she is drawing big circles around the smallest problems and causing him or her to see everything as negative. For example, the caregiver may say, “I will never be able to get the bedroom clean.” 

Replacing with TOC

TOC stands for Task-Oriented Cognitions. It is the replacement thinking that encourages dementia and Alzheimer’s caregivers in Allen, TX, to start or continue a specific task. Continuing from the previous example, the caregiver may say, “I will just start with this one corner and move on from there.”

Putting TIC-TOC in Action

The TIC-TOC technique works to replace negative thinking in all types of circumstances. For example, the caregiver may have a moment of TIC where he or she thinks, “Mom does not even seem to know that I am here.” The TOC to that way of thinking would be, “While Mom may not know I am here, I am giving her the best quality of care that I can.”

TIC-TOC Works in Most Circumstances

Dementia caregivers can use the TIC-TOC technique to replace all types of negative thinking such as jumping to conclusions, making “should” statements, labeling others and personalizing every situation. In the beginning, many people find it helpful to take a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle. Label one side of the paper TIC and one side TOC. Write down your negative thoughts on one side of the paper and then your replacement thought on the other.

Internalizing the Process

Soon most caregivers begin to internalize the process. A loud ticking clock in the home can even be used as an auditory reminder. When the caregiver replaces their negative thinking, then they feel more motivated to provide the best level of care while quelling their frustrations.

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